When to say YES, When to say NO; to take control of your life.
By Henry Cloud Ph.D., John Townsend Ph.D.
Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. Many people in relationship with a person affected by Borderline Personality Disorder have, over time, either drawn overly flexible boundaries (unwilling to say no, always accommodating the others' needs) or overly rigid boundaries (to the point of being righteous and judgmental). This simply doesn't work. In this book, psychologists and inspirational speakers Henry Cloud and John Townsend show readers how to set reasonable boundaries.
This book is popular with the public at large and has sold over 2 million copies and spawned an almost endless series of "Boundaries" books, workbooks, CDs, DVDs, satellite casts, and lectures. The material is very well presented.
The premise of this book is that you cannot control what other people say and do, but you can control how you react and make your own choices - and it explains in simple terms how to go about that. It helps put relationships into a prospective that is healthy and also nurturing. According to the authors, "Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances. Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions Emotional boundaries help us deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others."
The style of the authors is inspirational. The reader is cautioned that the book has light Christian overtones and references to the bible. You can get that flavor of this by listening to our brief audio track. The authors are psychologists, not clergy. Cloud completed his graduate studies at Biola University - a small Christian College. Their work has been criticized on both extremes - for having overly liberal of interpretations of scripture, and on the other hand with statements like "I am so over the religious rubbish, it has nothing to do with the real world." If your not inclined to either of those extremes, the book should be enjoyable and constructive.
The "Boundaries" products are marketed in many formats and we urge you to read the product descriptions carefully. This particular book is available in a regular full size version, and also miniature abridged editions (2 inches x 2 inches) which are a bit odd.
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About the Authors
John Cloud is a clinical psychologist with a unique ability to connect with his audiences. He is a graduate of Southern Methodist University, having earned a BS in psychology with honors. He completed his Ph.D. in clinical psychology at Biola University and his clinical internship at Los Angeles County Department of Mental Health. His philanthropic interests lie in the area of homelessness and the inner city, as well as Third World missions and development. He serves on the board of the Los Angeles Mission, a rescue mission on Skid Row in downtown Los Angeles.
Cloud has written or co-written nineteen books, including the million-seller Boundaries. In his consulting practice, he works with leaders of organizations and corporations, from family-held firms to Fortune 25 companies and non-profit organizations.
John Townsend is a clinical psychologist and marriage and family therapist. Born and raised in North Carolina, Dr. Townsend earned his BA in psychology at North Carolina State University, graduating with honors. He went on to obtain his Master of Theology degree from Dallas Theological Seminary, again with honors, and then his Masters and PhD in clinical psychology from Biola University in California.
A prolific writer, he has authored or co-authored eighteen books, and has sold over four million copies.
# Paperback: 304 pages
# Publisher: Zondervan; Rev Ed edition (April 1, 2002)
# Language: English
# ISBN-10: 0310247454