July 3, 2017

A. J. Mahari

A.J. Mahari is a YouTube blogger (700+ videos) on the  subjects of Borderline Personality Disorder, narcissistic abuse, Aspergers Syndrome, and other things that interest her.

Mahari reports to have been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and Asperger's Syndrome. She also reports to be recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder, cPTSD, and a narcissistic abuse survivor.

Her videos are based on her own mental health experiences and her many experiences with neighbors, landlords, handymen, local shopkeepers, and romantic partners who she feels have personalty disorders. She generally posts 3 times a week and there is a mix of styles: general abuse topics, answers to comments, struggles in her life, her pets.

Mahari is a sympathetic figure who is very open about the trials and tribulations in her life and how she is emotionally processing things in the moment. Her stories are both captivating and revealing of what she considers healthy living. 

Pros: Helping people with BPD is her strength.  Her calm style, compassion and first-hand knowledge of BPD works well with this audience. She is especially good with self-awareness.

Cons: Her relationship coaching is, at best, "label and blame" breakup coaching. She effortlessly labels romantic partners as hopeless psychopaths, malignant narcissists, etc. Her videos are very long and complicated streams of consciousness. There is a high degree of repetition from one video to another. Production quality is low.

1 comment:

  1. I know AJ from many years ago when she was helping fellow "borderlines" become self-aware and find healthy ways to process emotions. Her compassion and her calm voice was inspiring. She knew what she was talking about. She lived it. She was real, and safe, and helpful.

    What happened? Most of her videos on youtube seem to be about labeling and splitting people.

    I recently viewed this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wavzOG-h8m0 (watch after the 7 minute mark) which I think shows her skill in explaining BPD to people with BPD.

    I don't think her videos about how to deal with narcissists are very good at all.